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Financial Clean Up

June 29, 2018 6,867 Comments
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Living With Less is actually more like Learning to Live Within.

The story of our financial journey is akin to different kinds of changes. Sometimes things happen quickly and in a moment everything changes. And sometimes things just change a little, slowly over time. The next thing you know you are asking yourself “How the hell did we get HERE?”.

This is the beginning of our financial clean up story.

Like all families there are typical things we spend money on. Food, housing, clothing, utilities, the norm. Then there are the things that come along that are less expected or down right unexpected. Kids summer camps that need to be paid for in February that are $600, the furnace the needs repair that is $800, braces, birthdays, concerts, back to school clothes and supplies and devices and and and…

Not to mention the winter that is just too bloody long and too bloody cold and if you don’t get out of here STAT you may just end up needing to spend more on psychologist fees than a quick trip to Mexico would cost. So off you go!

Our intentions were nearly always good. Most often we’d finance an expense for something in the future – acknowledging that we’d pay it off over time. This is one way we justified to ourselves that it’s OK to live beyond our means. Sometimes we simply wanted to take advantage of opportunities that came up, that we might not get again, like celebrating our children’s milestone birthdays in very memorable ways. We leveraged our future financial position for the here and now moment. I don’t even regret all those choices if I’m being honest. (I will write more on this topic later) Alexa will never forget her 10th birthday – ever, and neither will I.

There is truth to the rumor that the road to hell is paved with good intentions. It became easy to slip into the habit of just pulling a little here and there from our line of credit to wipe clean a credit card at the end of the month, take a quick trip to the mountains etc. No one should pay 19% interest right? It also became easier to justify it to ourselves each time we took this action.

A secondary, but troubling reality emerged; the larger the line of credit balance, the easier it was to pull more money from it. What’s the difference between a balance of $23,000 and $24,500? Nothing. Or so it began to feel.

We were not behind on any of our bills, and we made a rather large payment to the line of credit balance each month and life went along beautifully. Money matters were not something we fought about and usually we were on the same page. Neither of us enjoyed taking money from the line of credit, but it was a means to an end. The life we wanted, and the stuff associated with it, was always attainable.

Toward the end of 2017, with the new year approaching, Jeff and I began discussing our hopes for 2018 for our marriage and for our family. We also began to dream about what we would do with extra money. It is so fun dreaming together, and something we do often. It was during that conversation we realized if we paid off our line of credit, we could start doing the things we were dreaming about!

Armed with a dream in our heart of more financial flexibility, and extra vacations on our mind, we decided 2018 was going to be the year we stopped borrowing from the line of credit (save emergencies) and the year we took that sucker down!

We wanted to live life from a place of being ahead, instead of behind.

Together we decided to become diligent in our pursuit of a $0.00 line of credit balance, while finding our own financial happiness in the process. It is more than dollars and cents; it is a lifestyle balancing act, it is a mental balancing act, it is a discipline balancing act. And it has proven to already be very rewarding, just a few months in!

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Living with Less

March 22, 2018 4,314 Comments
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THE NEED FOR #livingwithless

My name is Layna and I have an unhealthy relationship with stuff and money.

There I’ve said it.

Point # 5. I am a rule follower. More on that here.

Until I am not.

Then I seem to blow the rule right out of the water. It’s like I give up. Or let go. I just decide I can’t do it, or that I don’t even want to try. The bigger the goal, usually the harder I fall. I’ve tried to psycho analyze myself to see why I do this, and I must admit I haven’t come up with anything very deep or profound. The shallow answer I have is that I just don’t have much willpower. But this isn’t actually the truth about me either. Ask my husband how many nights I have frantically ran on the spot while brushing my teeth because I wasn’t yet to my 10,000 step goal. I love achieving goals! The best I can hope is that over the course of this 2018 year, I can find some of the answers that I am seeking about the why.

Rules provide me comfort and solace. My own personal boundaries. The problem with saying to hell with them, is that those rules were put in place when I was not emotional, was thinking clearly and knew what I wanted in a larger scheme of things. They were not adopted in an impulsive setting. And when I toss the rules overboard, eventually I end up sinking into a sea of regret. It may not be initially, it may take some time, and I may even convince myself that it was the right choice. Until I come back to the rules. Wash. Rinse. Repeat.

Often this takes those close to me down as well. The decision to aim for something higher is a joint decision and more often than not, I decide it’s not fun anymore. Getting on that bandwagon is pretty easy for my family. Instant gratification is you know – gratifying. But what I have been learning is that it comes at a cost. Oddly enough, I believe the financial costs are the least of them. It is everything else that really costs. It is the things that money can’t fix. The regret. The dread. The shame. And the not fun, in starting all over again. From further behind.

Last year I decided I hated the color of my kitchen cabinets and started looking at painting them which lead to just replacing them, which lead to the need for a new backsplash, counters, under cabinet lighting, a larger island, and well then the flooring wouldn’t go anymore and if we changed the hardwood then the carpet on the stairs would surely need replacing as well right? I went to great lengths and took considerable time to pick out everything and price it all out, arrange financing etc. Only to decide it would be easier to just move. I went from a $5,000 cabinet paint job to needing a home worth $300,000 more than my current one, in a short time. And guess what – I had myself fully convinced and Jeff mostly convinced that: a) we should do it b) we deserved it c) we could afford it.

And so the new house hunt began. Again, it took time and effort and lots of energy, both physical and emotional. And I enjoyed every second of it. Until practicality got a hold of me and I decided we should do nothing. It was like I got to the edge of the cliff and got scared about what jumping would be like, when all I had been doing was training for the jump.

Back to the rules.

At the beginning of January Jeff and I looked at our personal finances and we came up with some great, but lofty, goals. They are attainable, but they require financial discipline like we haven’t had in oh quite a while. If we stick to “The Plan”, we can have our personal debt paid off, still go on a vacation, and have some money tucked aside to begin the great kitchen overhaul, inside 12 months. I have to believe that will feel ultimately so much more satisfying than taking on more debt and having it done today. I hope I am right!

While our plan means I must work more, as I have the flexibility in my life to allow for that and Jeff does not, I am in a season where I welcome that. Alexa and Nixon are both in school full time and my days have opened up a little. I need to make as much money as I usually do to help cover our household expenses, but the extra money to pay off debt and start the savings, falls squarely on my shoulders. This will be a full family commitment though, as a dollar unspent is the same as a dollar earned. Everyone will make sacrifices, and everyone will benefit and together we will all learn. It also means that I can’t have a throw the rules out kind of moment for an entire year! I’m scared. But I am invigorated. I’ve been doing this for 2 months now and I have been learning a lot about #livingwithless. I’m excited to share the things I’ve been learning, doing, and saying no to. It’s no small task but it sure feels good. Better that a new Prada bag right?!?!?

Stay tuned for more on this newest crazy adventure and feel free to join the journey! I will be posting pictures and stories on Instagram @lovelayna and using the #livingwithless. I encourage you to do the same. We’ve got this.

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